How to be a mom, work outside the home and get to everything

How to be a mom, work outside the home and get to everything

The only way to being a mom, working and getting to everything without worrying it is to achieve to build a solid couple where both share in equal parts the tasks of the house and the upbringing.

Of course it is not easy, because we all have a load of beliefs and prejudices, which permeate the collective unconscious and indicate that there are tasks that correspond to the mother. But in fact there are only two: give birth and breastfeed. All the others can be shared: bathing, changing diapers, feeding, telling stories, preparing meals, taking to school, helping with homework.

We working moms want to get to everything, but we should not carry the burden of what "belongs to us". It is essential to establish rules from the beginning so that tasks are shared whenever we live with the couple.

Of course, for that you have to let the parents get involved. Sheryl Sandberg, CEO of Facebook, in her book Lean in says: even if he puts the diaper on his head, let him do it, because he has to find his way of doing things and you have to accept them. If you correct everything, on the third day it will stop and you will find yourself overloaded.

Women, and I think that, especially those of us who work, find it hard to ask for help Because in general, in order to reach high positions in the companies where we work and to generate our own ventures, we feel that we had to make our way through the jungle. But today we have to empower men, for our own benefit.

One personal tip is that guilt management can be just as important as time management for mothers. Guilt is a terrible counselor to educate. And not part of what we are doing today.

The child can go to a birthday without a gift and he will not be traumatized for life, even if one day we are late to pick him up at school.Children's development depends on the thousands of interactions they have throughout their lives, not just on us being the Wonder Mom.

And finally, I leave you with a few words from Gloria Steinem who expresses it better than me: “Trying to do everything and hope that everything turns out perfectly well is the ideal recipe for disappointment. Perfection is the enemy. It is impossible to do everything. No one can have two full-time jobs, have perfect children, cook three meals a day ... Superwoman is the villain of the feminist movement.

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